At Esprit we realize the difficulty our Significant Others face in coping with a transgender partner in a committed relationship. How many young girls do you know of with a burning desire to spend their lives with a partner who wears their clothes? We also realize that the health of the relationship, as well as the mental health of the partners in many cases, depends upon the ability to smoothly assimilate this unique behavior into the relationship. For this reason, Esprit demonstrates a fundamental commitment to our wonderful Significant Others and to couples. At Esprit the Significant Other Program is a fundamental part of the conference and educational program and this program is recognized as the best program of its kind in the country, if not the world.

We are pleased to announce that Dotti Berry returns again to facilitate and teach during this year’s SO Program classes.

Many of the scheduled classes are restricted to only the partners of TG attendees. These classes are designed to ensure your privacy and comfort. We make every effort to provide a safe place to share feelings, ask questions and discover that you are not alone. These classes are “closed door” and are conducted with the understanding that what is said in the room, stays in the room! It is important to note that the door will be LOCKED. This ensures that the group process is not interrupted. Please arrive early and ready to join in the discussions. Our classes are led by professionals with many years of experience.

Room 248 is a large and comfortable room reserved for the SO Program. This room is where all the classes will take place and is reserved before and after classes for SO’s to rest, relax, and regroup. You can scan the schedule for the retreats and classes you are interested in and read the detailed class descriptions. The SO Program Coordinator can be reached by using the Contact Us page and will be glad to answer any questions or concerns you may have.

A message from the Chairwoman of Esprit

Esprit works with the Transgender community at many levels, and one of the most important elements of the conference is in reaching out to you, our lifetime partners and friends. We welcome you and hope to provide you with presentations and events to meet your needs. Over the course of the week, our intent is to provide a comfortable and trusting environment that will allow you to raise questions and share your experiences with others. Although our hope is to provide you with some answers to these questions, we also want you to enjoy the week. We have events planned where you will be able to leave the seminar setting, have fun and relax while meeting new friends. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to enhance your experience. Welcome, and thank you for sharing your time with us at Esprit.

Caela Hopkins
Esprit Committee

Message from Dotti Berry

The SO program at Esprit is invaluable for Significant Others, as well as couples who attend together. Whether you are attending for the first time or have attended multiple times, constantly creating your relationship in the “moment” is essential to its success and its ability to thrive in the midst of whatever obstacles you encounter.

Facilitating the SO program isn’t about doing “presentations.” The class descriptions merely serve as the foundation for the particular session. I facilitate the process, and we work with what each of you brings into the group session. YOU are the reason the groups work because it is the information and insights you share about your own personal journey that are key as others witness your process and vice versa. When you ask your personal questions and share your personal story, you enable others to tap into the reservoir of insights that are yours.

If you’ve participated in the past as a SO or as a couple, please join us again. Each year is new because you are constantly evolving and re-inventing yourself if you are alive and growing. You are not the same people as you were last year. You are like any person/couple in a relationship. You have new issues/situations which come up on a daily basis.

And if you think you have “done that already” because you already participated in the SO/Couples program at Esprit in the past, trust me, you haven’t! And it’s all the more reason to attend. Why? You could have “done it already” in a past year, but because you haven’t yet attended Esprit 2025, you haven’t addressed your relationship in the present…and that is what keeps it alive and vital.

The nuances of each relationship are different, adding texture and meaning to life in an expanded way as they are explored. Refuse to succumb to the ordinary and simply “survive” as an individual or as a couple in your relationship. Commit to examining and bringing to light all that is and relish the opportunity to discover how to thrive vs survive, whatever it takes!

Comments from previous attendees of the SO program

I had a great time. I am so glad to have other SO support.

I had an excellent time. I learned a lot. I made many new friends. I want to come back next year!! Thank you for making me feel very welcome. It was nice meeting other wives in the same boat. The immediate connection was like meeting members of your family you didn’t know you had.

I had a wonderful time. This was one of the most important experiences of my life. It deeply affected me. It also had a profound and positive impact on my marriage and the marriage was very good already!! Thank you for setting up the SO options.